Today I was given the opportunity to practice what we all should do in life and that is just “let it go”. Since stress usually plays a pivotal role in anxiety, learning to let things go will help to reduce the amount of times and severity stress sparks your anxiety. The opportunity that presented itself was this morning shortly after my wife left for work. I’ve been home sick for the past few days with a bad cold when she called from her cellphone. It was a little strange because of the time she called. Normally she would have been to work by then and would have called me from work. So naturally I thought the worst things and she said she was in a minor car accident. Apparently some guy not paying attention rear-ended her.
A few months ago we traded in one of our compact cars for an SUV not only for the baby on the way, but also for safety reasons. The driver side headlight area of the sedan hit under the right side, rear bumper area of our car. My wife said that she was barely jolted and that there is very little damage to our car. Now I start thinking is she okay, is the baby okay, etc… She assured me she was fine and was going to finish getting to work and then call the insurance company.
What I wanted to do was quickly get dressed, go down there, really make sure she is okay, and then beat the crap out of the guy who hit her (I’m not an angry person, but the thought of someone hurting my wife makes you want to hurt them). Instead, after getting off the phone with her I took a step back and a deep breath. I said to myself that she is okay, the baby is okay and be thankful that we got the SUV. It was a minor fender bender and everything will work itself out. Now it took a lot of mental strength to accept it like this. For me it tends to be like a dry blade of grass and BREAK when the wind is strong versus a regular blade of grass and BENDING when the wind is strong.
A friend once told me that there is nothing wrong with stress. It is how you deal with stress that determines whether or not it is bad for you and affects you negatively. It is also important to recognize what is in your control and what is not. If I got too angry and drove down to where she was hit it would have accomplished nothing. She is a big girl and can take care of herself and if she tells me she is fine, I believe her.
I think it is possible to apply the “let it go” concept to anxiety as well. Whatever anxious thoughts or feelings you are experiencing, just let them go. As I said before if it was that easy, this blog wouldn’t exist. Why not try letting the feelings and thoughts to flow through you freely instead of trying to go against the grain and resist them? Similar to how you turn into the skid when your car slides on ice, recognize the thoughts/feelings and embrace them. Acknowledge them and move on. Don’t label them or analyze them. Just know they are there and that you are moving on.
“Gardeners are good at nurturing, and they have a great quality of patience, they’re tender. They have to be persistent.” -Ralph Fiennes
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